Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Cancer: Embracing Your Twist of Fate


Communicating as we do from time to time via Facebook, catching up on the trivial, arcane and sometimes the trials/tribulations of life as we live it,  has continuously bound Wendy and I together although  separated by  countries and borders.  Borders never existed between us.  If we didn’t reach out or “touch in” within a block of months, as soon as we emailed, our dialogue was as fresh and provocative as the first time we met, as most of my experiences have been with Wendy.  I had only seen Wendy one time in the last seven years since moving to San Miguel de Allende and that was for my 20-year-high-school reunion.  We ate Sushi together with Kenneth of course and I introduced them to my novio at the time, Greg, outside of my social obligations.  Kenneth and Wendy seemed to have it all as a partnership:  their graphic-design/paper printing business in which each one literally fed off one another’s talents and energies.  Their modern townhouse, which incorporated Wendy’s latest artwork and of course the penchant Kenneth and she had for decorating and design.  Their relationship was a match made in heaven and the fact that they stayed together for such a long time without inviting a judge or court into the matter was proof that “open relationships” of a different nature anchored in true admiration, love and one’s life purpose could be measured by time after all.  I flew away knowing she was in her prime and was maximizing life and her opportunities: winning scholarships, grants and numerous art awards, exhibiting her Quirky’s and paintings in museums and art galleries galore, which kept her forever creating in that surreal mind of hers.   I have never worried about Wendy,  I feel it has always been the other way around in our relationship, but this is her story not mine. 

Up until now….. Dominique Sachse, Ch. 2 News stellar-celebrity- anchor and long-time- friend since elementary school, (we even dressed the same in our Wiggle jeans with satin lips on the pockets) announced her wedding plans for the week of May 17-20th; a media frenzy and extravaganza taking place in the city where I could visit and stay with Wendyloo!  I was delighted that I could finally pay homage to Domi and Wendy during the same trip and so I reached out to Wendy on FB and suddenly learned that my possibility to see Wendy as she once was, was  now a fleeting chance if her prognosis on Monday was what we all hoped it wouldn’t be.  Let me explain.  Without knowing anything about Wendy’s last 3-6 month bout of flu-like symptoms, coupled with dizziness and nausea (deemed Vertigo by doctors at an ENT clinic,) or her sudden inability to drive her mini-Cooper because of peripheral vision loss and lack of ability to remember simple routes and her more than noticeable “spacey spells,” Kenneth and she decided to check into the Methodist hospital to make sure everything was all right.  Some routine tests this time and I assume they thought they could leave with the meds and results in hand but NO!.....  The last time we briefed one another had been on the 16th of April,  and then  a mere two days later here’s what I receive…….
Wendy
“Hi! I'm in hospital,, have been sick went to erengcy room, did a ct scan and I have a large mass on my brain, waiting to get MRI, might need brain surgery. Will keep u posted”
·  Crystal Calderoni notice there is only one misspelled word on this day
miércoles
  • WTF? tumor??? oh I'm sorry, I can't believe you are writing from your hospital room. I will meditate in your honor tonight with my candles, did you feel out of sorts or anything before this happened and when?
  • Is this a secret?
  • I am going to train 2 clients and then will be home to see what you post....
·  Crystal Calderoni
miércoles
  • oh Wendy, I've had the worst stomach cramps and ahem... something else because i am so worried about you..........
·  Wendy Wagner
miércoles
  • More soon going in for MRI now
    Love u
 Me: · 
I'm going to sit now... xoxoxo you, relax as best possible..
·  Wendy Wagner
miércoles
  • I love you!
·  Crystal Calderoni
miércoles
  • sending you oodles and oodles of love too from the gomden cushion!
  • Thursday:
  • news?????????
·  Crystal Calderoni
jueves
  • hmmmm.......... still more testing I'm assuming
  • · 
my stomach is in knots Wendyloo:((((((((
  • Where are you?
·  Wendy Wagner
Thursday
Wendy Wagner (notice the 3 misspelled words which are increasing as each day passes)
  • I'm bak home for the weekend they discharged me with meds for anti sexier and Odin plus steroids or brain swelling to keep done. Th surgeon gets back in country on Monday and thn well meet for post op surgery for next week. Xo
 Wendy Wagner       (and again something is not quite right by her typing)
  • No sexier, nice lol
    My typing is nitty
    Sexier
    ,
  • Seizurer it the word
    !
·  Crystal Calderoni
Friday
  • what is antisexier? sounds like a joke- ha! i got it, so no tumor at all???? yeah but you had a brain seizure, I've never heard of this... but now i am much more satisfied with the diagnosis- wheweeee! I'm sure you are too, xoxoxo, I'll email on monday to see what's up. Are you in Methodist Hosp? such a great relief! xoxoxox, Crystal
and now the bomb……
Hi Crystal, Kenneth here (Wendy's secretary) typing for her. Her eye - finger coordination is off (which explains the confused messaging) because of her tumor. She has lost a good part of her peripheral vision. Wendy has an aggressive cancerous growth that needs to addressed with surgery, radiation and chemotherapy (yucky to say the least) - We are blessed with some close friends that are super docs and well connected with other super docs so se is getting the best at the best hospital for her situation. Call me on my cellular) anytime to talk live or do you Skype? xoxo K sitting in for Wendy.
Wow!  Where is the justice in this scenario?   I am torn, mangled, distraught, PO’ed, Angry, sad, nervous, depressed,  sick with diarrhea, yucky stomach cramps and having to accept that this is happening to the last person in the world who must suffer like this.  Why?  So now we have to wait until Monday and of course as the next two days  saunter on, so does this aggressive tumor which causes mental deterioration and long-term brain damage.  I know what brain cancer is all about as I watched my uncle Joe spent his last dying days in my arms and I am praying/meditating that Wendy’s condition is the opposite of what I have experienced with a malignant and aggressive tumor.  We are all holding on to every moment and thought of good will and healing-radiant light and love’s magic enveloped around Wendy, shrouding her brain from the inevitable.   Monday afternoon we (K, W and I) plan on a skype conference call, so by then we will all have an answer and Dr. Demento, her doctor will be home from lecturing in Europe.  She will be in MD Anderson and will only be operated by the best.   Love to you!



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